Do you tell someone when they're wrong

It’s easy to pinpoint someone when they’re wrong, but in reality should we or should we not? In some cases, people seem to be getting too emotionally and without second taught, get smacked in the mouth! Honestly, sometimes I do! Sometimes you just can’t get yourself a pause to think and everything just smacked in!

Everyone makes honest mistakes and a lot of times they’re not that adept to see their own faults. Although embedded in criticism constructively convey to help us to get better but not everyone receive your good intentions across, it just uncomfortable, like putting salt into their open wound and you’re just another fool delivering a meaningless good message.

A friend told me before if that person kept on telling you when you’re doing wrong; it means it has gets to a point where they don’t want to hang around with you anymore. I got this message 2 years back when I told him my situation in my workplace. My senior was unfair to me. She assigned me with extra accounts because she said my colleagues cannot handle it and assigned me one of her duties few weeks later because the management decided to make me a senior. I rejected and told her, "I’m not ready, moreover I can’t promise I can deliver that much and don't you think you have put on too much weight on me." She declined my rejection and say, “The management say is either I take it or leave it whether I like it or not!” What can I say? Here comes the infuriating strategy just like showering praise early on, only to switch gears and unload with the bad news. 

Recalling the day when I handle my resignation letter to her, and I saw a satisfied smile on her face. Although this is the most regretful company I ever work with but nevertheless there’s no word to criticize! Why? Because I felt it is meaningless when you understand the person you’re going to criticize is someone who can’t handle the truth! So by the end of the day I choose to shut my mouth and learn to forgive.

Grateful or Ungrateful

How often we use this word ungrateful? 

My youngest uncle passed away without anyone notice until we go and visit him in the afternoon. I recall two weeks ago when the hospital calling me to discharge him because they failed to get his son for 2 days. I can hear the frustration on the voice of the nurse. Understood, why? I too getting the same voice messages after his father was admitted. Is he being so ungrateful after the father helps him financially to open his shop?  

Grateful or ungrateful, I believe it is just a line drawing both apart and I believe it was a cycle of life.

He was my grandma’s favourable child out of eleven and giving him everything she has until the day she left us. Does he ever visit her when she is sick in the hospital? No! Does he ever buy her something to eat? No! As for his son, does he ever raises him or taught him? The answer is “No” too.

So, who’s the ungrateful one? How many people dare to admit if they are not grateful? May be some even don’t realising themselves being ungrateful.

When I call the son today telling him the news, never thought of the first word from him is asking me why? I’m not sure why out of sudden I was so mad on him and say “He is your dad, how should I know?” After I hanged up, I only realise I was too harsh on him and I think I shouldn’t be. So I make few calls informing everyone and call him back to ask him what he wants to do. He manages to get the funeral arrangement assistants and send his father to the cemetery near his town.

I will be going to his funeral and I know some people will disagree because it is not few blocks away, it was few hours away, moreover the way he treats my dad, he don’t deserve it. Whether he deserves or not, it is your own point of view. I always believe what I’ve learnt from my dad is always the right thing to do. Whatever you do or talk, you are being an example to the others.